Look back and remember...

January 15, 2008

Habang nasa ma-trapik na lansangan ng Edsa, something occured to me (or in more appropriate words, may naisip nanaman ako. Sorry malikot talaga isip ko). 'Di ko nga dapat naiisip 'to kasi I have no personal experience in this as of the moment.  Siguro nahugot ko 'to sa mga kwentong relasyon ng mga kaibigan ko (masyado ata akong affected, hehe).

Sa Lion King, sabi ni Muffassa kay Simba when Simba was all prepared to turn his back from being the rightful heir to the throne of Pride Rock, "Remember... Remember who you are."  Medyo na-relate ko lang sya sa mga minsang coldness a.k.a. panlalamig na nararanasan natin sa mga relasyon. Dahil sa masyado nang nagkasanayan, nagkasawaan, we often get this "I don't care anymore" attitude pag nagkakaroon ng mga tampuhan.  Parang suddenly, we become all prepared, all ready to give up our partner, all our times together, and all future plans we somehow managed to come up with along the way.  Oo nga naman kasi.  Kung titignan, quitting/giving up is the easiest, safest way out.  At gatong pa dyan ang everyday regularities in forms of everyday tampuhan, everyday same face na tinitignan, everyday same hand na hinahawakan, everyday same voice na naririnig. Iba naman? Tempting!

Kaya nga "Remember" - when we're feeling exactly like this, look back and remember. Remember who you are, remember the people you used to be. Look back on the very first day you fell in love with your partner and remember the very reasons why you did (kahit na minsan sabi nila the best form of love is that without explainable reasons). Ok let's say totoo 'yan. Still, try to find and remember those qualities of your partner that once amazed you.  Siguro nga kasi totoo din na love grows weak, if not fades (dahil sa love hormones? malay natin. O dahil sa love is just an emotion nga lang daw na, tulad ng anger, ay lumilipas din) pero one cannot love without commitment. And commitment takes a little effort. Make that extra little effort to try and remember and who knows, we might find ourselves smiling again as we recall that bubbly attitude that made us laugh long ago, that charming smile that once captivated our heart, that quick wit that never fails to leave us in awe, those beautiful hands, that wonderful voice that is once music to our ears, that face that we've always dreamt of waking up to in the morning, those eating habits that are always bizaare, those qualities that we always find unique and interesting.  It won't be too hard to give that little effort to try to make ourselves and our partners happy and revived.  Refresh our memories. Remember...

Yes, we can always say that for sure, we'll be able to find all these things from someone else, someone new.  But the point is, we already fell in love with these qualities and the person that possessed them a long time ago.  Somehow we just forgot.  And it's not so much pain to try to remember.  At least in the end when, after all that we've tried to do, the relationship still failed, no one can say we didn't give it our best.  Because we know we didn't want and we weren't so ready to give up in the first place.  That's the only time we can say "maybe that's the way it's meant to be."